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Get To Know Your Clitoris For Owners & Lovers.

Have you ever taken the time to get to know your clitoris or your lover’s clitoris? I believe our clitoris has secrets of pleasure and wisdom that support us to know ourselves in richer ways as a woman or explore and meet our lover in new ways … if only we slow down and approach […]


Looking Beneath Our Desire?

If we take time to pause, to listen to self, we will often find that there is something beneath our desire that is not quite being met, as we are attending to our desire from surface level without truly listening in or from habit.  As we learn to allow our deepest desire to be fully […]


Letting Go Of Friction Based Sex.

I would like to offer the suggestion today, to let go of friction-based sex.    In our society, our culture, friction based sex is the only idea that we are offered in our sex education. That all sex is action based. Or sex is friction based. This idea of friction based Sex definitely gets us […]


You Are A Sexual Being.

I very often have people saying to me, particularly women and particularly women of a certain age group. (Peri-menopausal, going through the menopause and then the other side) that they are not sexy, they do not need or desire Sex and they do not see or feel themselves to be a sexual being. I truly […]


Is Our Deepest, Deepest Desire Sex?

Is our deepest deepest desire sex or do we simply not have the language, the confidence in communication, or the courage to be vulnerable to ask for what we truly need? When we so easily ask for, initiate or move into the act of sex … are we in truth desiring the simplicity of touch?  […]


Busting The Tantra Bullshit.

Tantra has a stigma in society. A limiting idea or presumption that it is all about having great sex for hours and achieving multiple and whole body orgasms. The thinking around Tantra can still be method/goal orientated… as in a means to great sex … but still an “action.” I am deeply passionate about the […]


Chasing The Big O

Orgasms are a much spoken topic in today’s world.      We can flick through magazines and find “DO this to your partner and give him/her amazing orgasms” But orgasms are not a method. It is not a case of trying or doing new Sex positions or styles of foreplay to get a result. To […]


Male Shame ~ The Unspoken Pressures Of Male Performance & Ejaculation.

I have chosen to Speak with you today about the unspoken pressure of male performance and ejaculation. We still have this thinking in society that sex is something that we do and sex is something that happens to us.   With this line of thinking it means that our sharing of sex becomes the responsibility […]


The What’s & How’s Of Tantric Sex.

There is much talk on what Tantric Sex is which simply recreates it as something else we need to master & perform in life. I was recently invited to speak at Inspiring Talks in Brighton and shares with us and chose to share the What’s & How’s Of Tantric Sex to clear a little of […]


When Sex Looses It’s Heart

We live in a culture where sex and love is easily separated. That may be due to accepting the beliefs of our surrounding environment and how sex is sold as an image or purely physical act or it may be that we have disconnected love and sex within our self to protect from vulnerability, intimacy […]