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So What Is Sexy?

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Now once upon a time, my instant answer would have been image …

I remember how hard it was for me to move into & accept my own body.

There was always so much to compare it to.  My limited view in the world of glossy magazines & TV celebs formed a belief at a young tender age that sexy was what I saw advertised & 100% not what I saw in the mirror.

Yet, when I look at these images now, they seem so empty, so hollow.

They are  images of an ideal of perfection created by current trend or fashion… all of a certain age, size, posing in a certain provocative style with or without a pout … A “sexy-ness” cleverly suggested to us but I look & ask is that image really what sexy is about.

I have watched women of late out of curiosity, all shapes, sizes & ages, just so I could get my words around what sexy is … & I have come to the conclusion that there is nothing more sexy than a woman who fills her body like a fine, rich wine. 

She moves, breathes & lives in her body with such ease, leaving a scent of beauty & grace behind her.  She knows herself intimately, comfortable with every curve, every blemish, every wrinkle, frown or smile.

She loves her body; you can see that, she plays it as her most sacred instrument, filling it fully with her presence.

The sparkle in her eyes is alive, self assured, playful.  She does not punish her body, wishes it was more or less, she loves it as her life long companion, for it is.

She is not seeking or waiting for attention or validation, yet her air holds an innocence … yes, her sexy is not a show for others, but a gift to herself.

She is mysterious, alluring.

She captivates her audience.  She hides nothing but reveals nothing at the same time.  She is an eternal secret.

She has tasted the nourishing waters of her own sensuality, sexuality; she has danced with her soul … her body open, warm, inviting.

It is not her shape, her size, her age … she has moved beyond all these, escaped them & found her true sexy …

No, its not how we look, or how we dress … its how we live, love & move in our own body, how natural & at ease we are with our womanhood, our essence, our sensuality & sexuality …

Yes, this is a woman’s “sexy”.



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