You Are A Sexual Being.
I very often have people saying to me, particularly women and particularly women of a certain age group. (Peri-menopausal, going through the menopause and then the other side) that they are not sexy and they do not need or desire Sex and they do not see or feel themselves to be a sexual being.
I truly do not agree with that.
We are all a sexual being.
All of us were created by a sexual spark. A sperm and an egg cane together and from that a divine spark occurred a miracle. That was you…
The very truth of you, the absolute nature of you … the beginning of you is sex.
I believe that the people I speak to that say that are not a sexual being and do not feel sexy, or feel desire or pleasure, is purely because they are focusing on the action of Sex.
If I say the word Sex to you than instantly an image or an idea of what sex is comes to your mind. And this image is usually the act of two people sharing an activity … the act of sex. But there is a being-ness to our Sex. That drops the doing.The doing is simply how we are choosing to express our sexual nature … our sexual being.
When we are becoming in tune, returning to our sexual nature, our sexual being. We come back to the simplicity, the innocence and the purity of our sexual nature and become in a new relationship with that … a richer knowing … a deeper understanding.
We have the ability to allow it to fill ourselves up as our fullest organic potential and from this refined sexual consciousness we make a conscious choice how we wish to share and express our sexual being with others and the world around us.
That maybe through the act of Sex or it maybe painting a piece of art, dancing a dance, through touch or singing.
All an expression of our sexual self.
We are all a sexual being with the potential to feel our sex, our desires, our pleasure. It is simply letting go of the do~ing and allowing our sex to arise as an expression from be~ing.
Is Our Deepest, Deepest Desire Sex?
Is our deepest deepest desire sex or do we simply not have the language, the confidence in communication, or the courage to be vulnerable to ask for what we truly need? When we so easily ask for, initiate or move into the act of sex … are we in truth desiring the simplicity of touch? … Continue Reading
The Grace Of Whole Body Orgasms.
We can be so focused on what we think an orgasm should like, or what an orgasm should sound like or even to the extent what we think an orgasm will feel like for our body. Even in the Tantric world, there is maybe this idea that when we are having these whole body orgasms,… Continue Reading
Busting The Tantra Bullshit.
Tantra has a stigma in society. A limiting idea or presumption that it is all about having great sex for hours and achieving multiple and whole body orgasms. The thinking around Tantra can still be method/goal orientated… as in a means to great sex … but still an “action.” I am deeply passionate about the… Continue Reading
Chasing The Big O
Orgasms are a much spoken topic in today’s world. We can flick through magazines and find “DO this to your partner and give him/her amazing orgasms” But orgasms are not a method. It is not a case of trying or doing new Sex positions or styles of foreplay to get a result. To… Continue Reading
Our Sex ~ The Last Place We Want To Look.
Sexuality is very often the last place we want to look. The last “thing” we attend to in our lives. This is very often because of the guilt, shame, the suppression we have built around it. The hidden beliefs we have around our sex and our sexuality. We do not want to go there, we… Continue Reading
Male Shame ~ The Unspoken Pressures Of Male Performance & Ejaculation.
I have chosen to Speak with you today about the unspoken pressure of male performance and ejaculation. We still have this thinking in society that sex is something that we do and sex is something that happens to us. With this line of thinking it means that our sharing of sex becomes the responsibility… Continue Reading
A Beautifully Shared Account of Sacred Tantric Touch.
Nikki honestly and beautifully shares her experience of Sacred Tantric Touch. Continue Reading
The What’s & How’s Of Tantric Sex.
There is much talk on what Tantric Sex is which simply recreates it as something else we need to master & perform in life. I was recently invited to speak at Inspiring Talks in Brighton and shares with us and chose to share the What’s & How’s Of Tantric Sex to clear a little of… Continue Reading
A Recovery Process For Adult Survivors Of Childhood Sexual Trauma.
In today’s video I share with you how I created a process exploring the methods of Tantra to reclaim my body and sexuality after many years of suffering the physical, emotional, mental and spiritual consequences of childhood abuse. I take you through the steps of this personal recovery, which I now share with others. … Continue Reading