In Tantra we call the vagina, “yoni,” This is a Sanskrit term which, when translated reveals a whole new perspective of the vagina. A meaning that holds love, devotion & honour.
She is called “sacred space” or “sacred temple”.
I feel this Sanskrit translation is a beautiful reflection of how the yoni is seen, caressed and respected in authentic tantric massage.
This way of “being” in relationship to the yoni, is I feel not only important for men to integrate into their understanding and sexual journey of the female genitals but women also.
Too often in Western society, the yoni is seen as a separate, private part to our whole body and life. We call her “down there” or our “private part”. We feel her function in life is only for sexual pleasure, sexual relationships or for the birthing of a child.
I am so often asked why Tantric massage includes the yoni and lingam.. and my answer is: why not? Is it not part of who you are?
Our genitals are not separate parts to who we are, to only be invited to “come out to play” for sex and special occasions. Without the acceptance and integration of our Yoni, the reclaiming of our sexual essence and living from a “rooted” place, we cannot fully embody our soul and our passions into our daily lives.
Our Yoni is a sacred part of our body, of which when seen and touched from a space of love is no different to any other part of your body that you allow touch, pleasure and healing.
Your yoni has a “voice!” She has secrets to tell, ancient feminine wisdom to share, guidance to your fulfilment to offer, emotions and pain to release. She is your internal compass through life. She is the roots of which you can grow up and expand from. She is your unique thumbprint in the world.
Without her grounding qualities and the self permission for pleasure that she invokes, life feels numb, fearful and colour~less.
Pleasure and healing come hand in hand, as our bodies relax and release withheld trauma and tension. Your shoulders, your neck, your jaw line holds the stresses and traumas of life …your yoni is no different.
In fact she is so sensitive, that she is more susceptible to store unhealed emotions of the past and present. It is not unusual when using sacred touch on a yoni for a woman to feel overwhelmed with different emotions ranging from anger, isolation, rejection, shame to ecstatic pleasure.
I am there as a “midwife” to guide and hold a space for a woman through the expression of ALL that she is. All is welcome … to unleash whatever may arise to be seen without judgement and unconditional love.
An Authentic Yoni Healing has no goals; it is a very present experience of the senses that unfolds. Therefore orgasm and climax are not an aim or a place we are heading to.
It may happen, it may not …that is neither here nor there or my intention as a tantric therapist.
My only wish is to guide you home to the safe container of your body. To your Yoni, your voice and heart and teach you to listen to the deepest, most magnificent parts of you, for yourself.
A yoni massage is not a form of masturbation. It is a very conscious and present form of healing and loving touch that reunites love and sex and immerses your body into sacred union with itself.
To be totally present for another ,allows the body and yoni to melt and let go. Any outdated layers of body armour to dissolve.
If orgasm does occur it is a healing and freeing experience rather than sexual and not something we have tasted before. The orgasms are non~ sexual, deeply nourishing and satisfying for the body and yoni.
The body moves into a state of bliss and wholeness for it has been recognised as a “whole” often for the first time. It is an expansive feeling of mind, body and soul bringing a sense of unity with our woman~ness. This is of great personal importance to bring a woman in tune with her own womanhood, to open the doorways that reveal a strong, open, sexually empowered, sensual woman ~ NOT for the man in her life, but for herself.
Healing Yoni Massage.
I am sure the list of the benefits of a yoni massage has not reached its limit as tantra brings something new & fresh to each unique individual I have had the honour of working with. But to bring light upon this ancient practice that can be seen with such a limited view, I have provided you with a few healing experience that conscious sacred touch of the yoni may bless our lives with..
A healing yoni massage supports a woman in witnessing, transforming and releasing emotional pain and suppressing beliefs, be that from sexual trauma, abuse, difficult sexual relationships or trauma experienced during childbirth.
Yoni Massage is a deeply spiritual practice that invites each woman to connect to her inner Goddess and express the beauty of her unique femininity.
Yoni/ Heart Massage Supports the Healing Process of :
- Sexual abuse and trauma.
- Disassociation with body/ sex experience. (Numbing out)
- Body dysmorphia
- Self sabotage, destructive habitual patterns.
- Disconnection with love and sex for self preservation/protection.
- Poor body image/confidence.
- Mother wounds, distrust of women.
- Ownership of womanhood.
- Witnessing, transforming and releasing emotional pain and suppressing beliefs.
- Removing outdated body armour/protection.
- Construction of healthy boundaries.
- Birth/ pregnancy trauma.
- Irregular/painful menstruation,
- Low sex drive.
- Pain in sexual intercourse.
- The inability to feel safe in one’s own skin.
- Fear of Intimacy.
- Lack of trust in relationships,
- Lack of respect for one’s own sexuality, reducing promiscuity.
- Lack of connection to one’s own feminine nature, creativity and voice.
- Lack of Body Love and skills to self care and nourish.
Yoni / Heart Massage Invites into a Relationship With Another:
- An ability to trust
- A willingness to be vulnerable,
- An ability to surrender,
- A connection of rich depth & unity
- An ability to receive and give permission to pleasure.
- Nourishing & satisfying sex for the mind, body & soul.
It allows a wide range of orgasms & climax experiences never tasted before, for the woman to immerse herself into for personal exploration of her body & femininity ~ revealing, deepening and expanding her sensuality and sexuality.
Tantric Initiation & What Your Session Involves:
Each woman is a unique individual, I therefore cannot and do not measure time as such but allow the healing to unfold as the true essence of tantra. Each session lasts between 90- 120 minutes. Sometimes a session may be longer or shorter in time than another. I feel it is essential that we both listen to your body and its needs in the present moment & be guided in this way.
Although tantric massage is the core, meditation, breathing practice and tantric life coaching is also included to support you in integrating all that happens within a session into your daily life. I see your attendance as you making a commitment to yourself and the changes you wish to see in your life, it is essential that you feel empowered to share your experiences with me beyond our work together.
The massage includes a devotional caress of the whole body, not one part of you being more loved or more important than another… bringing trust and a sense of safety within my touch and secondly, the whole body, yoni, mind and soul into alignment.
Although each Tantric Initiation session holds its own gifts and therefore value. I do feel it is essential that it is understood that Tantra is a journey of exploration ~
A gentle process of unfolding and not a quick fix as we often expect in today’s world. I do highly recommend that before booking, that you please check in with yourself that you have the time and willingness to commit to yourself and this pathway.
I strongly recommend to receive the full benefits of your tantric journey that you are able to commit to the minimum of six sessions at 2- 3 weeks apart. This enables you to fully receive the benefits and teachings of Authentic Tantric Massage and to immerse yourself in the full potential of your body and sensuality.
A “One off ” experience is all very well and nourishing in it’s own right but I feel it’s certainly not enough to gain a true picture of the healing power that Tantra has to offer us as women, nor enough to form the foundations for the significant changes in your life that drew you to this website.
On average over the past 16 years of my Tantric Sharing, women have required 6 sessions, this is not to give a “goal” or to create comparison but to offer you an honest idea of the time and financial commitment required to give to yourself, body and Yoni.
The foundational six sessions are devoted to and focused on you, supporting you to own your sex.
Thereafter a further three sessions, may be a choice to consider as to how you may now share your newly explored sexuality with another and life around you.
You may watch and listen to Nikki’s beautiful sharing after one of her sessions, Or read the honest experiences of other women.
Is This For You?
Yes! If …
- You are unable to feel your body and life as a source of pleasure and sensuality.
- You fear intimacy, touch and or have past sexual experiences that need rewiring.
- You know that you just cannot keep going around in unfulfilling circles in life anymore.
- You are ready for a life changing journey.
This is not for you if …
- Not able to commit to a process and are seeking a quick fix patch up.
- Not open to huge transitions in how you feel and your life.
- Not wanting to change and to keep your story.
- Wanting “the work” to be done for you or to you, as a form of rescue rather than empowerment.
- Do not feel your life is worthy of a time and financial commitment to you.
A Tantric Initiation with an authentic Tantrika, offers another a doorway to taste that which we cannot know through words or intellect … the only way through Tantra is to experience it through your being.
After your free telephone consultation, you are requested to commit to and pay for your sessions in blocks of 3 at the cost of £495.
I will say from a place of sincerity that 3 sessions is a foundation of work. Most people require 6 sessions.
A deposit is required upon booking. Terms and conditions can be read here.
Again I strongly advise that you ensure you can commit financially to your Tantric Healing. Making an investment into the process of connecting with your sexuality and sensuality creates changes in the WHOLE of your life. .
How To Book:
Please read my Tantra Etiquette then, after contacting me via email I will invite you to a casual chat/consultation by phone before committing to your booking, so that you may ensure you feel at ease with me, and I can answer any questions you may have, or soothe away any concerns or worries.
Please note there is currently a waiting list for 2021.
Choosing the right Tantric Therapist for you is essential and ensures both parties are coming from the same intentions. All journeys in life require strong beginnings of courage, love honour and trust.
To contact me or book your session please email me here.