Honouring your own sex first may seem an odd suggestion.
But what if sex is like the oxygen mask that we are guided to put on first before helping others.
What if without honouring our own relationship to sex, we are not fully experiencing what is so naturally available to us?
Honouring your own sex is not an invitation to immerse yourself into masturbation.
Honouring your own sex is a possibility to:
❤️ Know yourself more deeply
❤️ Care for yourself with a quality of love that knows no conditions
❤️ Respect yourself with boundaries that require no assertiveness, for they come from a self assured strength,
❤️ Expand far beyond the limitations that keep you small and breathe effortlessly into more ….
We have become so dependent on a partner to fulfil what we ourselves are disconnected from, that our lovers do not stand a chance of meeting that need.
We have become so rigid in the education that sex is an act. We as humans have lost a vital aspect of who we are.
There is so much conditioning, shaming and performance expectations weighing sex down and placing pressure upon us, the vibrancy and source of aliveness that is only available to us through our sexual energy, dims and fades.
Honouring your sex asks you to come home to yourself.
To reclaim the safety and ease of your own flesh and bones.
To release shame that creates fear of intimacy and pleasure.
To feel and explore for yourself, the subtle energy of sex as a scared life force that is uniquely yours.
To know how this energy pulses and moves through you… inspires … Desires to dance, play, create, explore.
How it fills us up, like nothing else naturally available to us, with a potent vibrancy that celebrates the individuality of each body and the life it breathes
That in the pause to feel sex as energy, a devotion arises, dissolving all that we have individually and collectively attached to an energy so free, that by limiting it, we have clipped the wings of our own potential.
How to honour your sex as a daily practice:
I write the word practice for it is one we can relate to with an understanding that requires us to show up regularly and with commitment to get to where we want to be.
I would like to suggest the word practice is dropped and replaced with exploration.
I wish for you to feel inspired to explore your sex, be playful, sincere but not serious. To let go of goal, and most importantly let it go of what you think you know.
Approach your sexual energy with a curiosity. A willingness to be opened and taught by life force wishes to express and move you. Not limiting it to what you want to feel it to be or where you wish it to take you to.
In honouring our own sex we strip back. We surrender everything we have been taught and confined by and choose to listen instead.
❤️ Step one:
The first step is to bring awareness to the inner story. Noticing the internal language you speak to yourself about sex. Not being harsh on yourself, but being loving, open and curious. Care for yourself as you would a loved one … make space for shame, disgust, performance pressure to come forward and be met.
❤️ Step two:
Spend time simply caressing the whole of your body, letting go of any intentions to masturbate. This teaches your nervous system and body, that arousal and pleasure can be present in the body without having to act upon it. This allowing enables the body to start opening the pathways, that move sexual energy from restriction of the groin and the act of sex, to the whole body.
❤️ Step three:
Once you feel at ease, with being sensual with your body without reaching for masturbation, begin to explore how your breath moves in your belly, while simmering in this glowing state. Be curious with soft, slow, deep breath …how the breath moves your body and shifts your energy.
Allowing ourselves to attune to the subtle energy of sex, we are placed into a beautiful space where our life force becomes free, pure and playful.
We have a greater trust in ourselves because we are listening to that energy as sacred. No longer suppressing, denying, shaming, performing, hungry for .…
Or limited to the singular experience of the act.
We have the freedom of choice in the ownership of our sex.
