Tantra is a journey. Not a destination.

I love these words as I write them. They feel delicious to sound out onto paper.

After twenty three years of exploring a life lived in breath, body and sex, they ring so perfectly true.

It is one of my greatest loves of Tantra.

The journey.

Because it is richly aligned with life. And as we surrender to the notion that life is a journey, we stay attuned to the innocent experiences of curiosity, awe and wonder.

Why we want a destination

We, in all our human conditions and society pressures, have grown stagnant.

We view everything as a goal. Burdened with expectation.

We want a destination.

It offers some false sense of safety.

We seek and demand A to B.

We relish in results with such an intense focus that leaves us exhausted.

And we bypass the treasures available to us in the process.

Tantra returns us to simplicity

Tantra offers us methods to remember and return to the simplicity of life.

The teachings remind us again and again.

Bring us back to a new depth of trusting the effortless flow of life… silently waiting for us to let go of and sink in.

We hanker for less.

Experience and feel more.

Of course the mind will struggle with letting go of destination. Surely that means we will never have what we desire.

Surely enlightenment and our dreams will always remain out of reach.

And yet…

Tantra is a journey: 5 reminders to release the need to arrive

1) You are not behind

If life is a journey, you cannot be “late” to it.

You are here.

2) The breath is where life is felt

There is no arriving… whether that be in enlightenment, joy, love, or peace.

Life is not a destination.

It is felt in the full presence of this breath… and this breath…

3) Curiosity, awe and wonder are not childish. They are guidance.

As we stay attuned to these innocent experiences, life becomes vivid again.

Not because anything changed.

Because we stopped rushing past it.

4) The treasures are in the process

When the focus is results, we become exhausted.

When the focus is the journey, we notice what is here.

And it is always more than we thought.

5) When you stop gripping, life moves through you

We can feel life humming through us.

Moving us.

We notice attachments, drama, chaos, materials, fear take up less space.

Goals matter less.

Because each step of a Tantric journey offers more.

FAQ

What does “tantra is a journey” actually mean?

It means tantra is lived. Not achieved. It’s an ongoing return to breath, body and presence, again and again.

Is it wrong to have goals?

No. Goals can be beautiful. They simply don’t have to be the place you abandon yourself on the way to.