Belonging ~ To belong is a human desire, which gro Belonging ~
To belong is a human desire, which grows in its intensity, the further we move away from being in relationship with our body 💕
I ached for you. The longing a hunger. I looked I ached for you. 
The longing a hunger. 
I looked and could not find you ...
and then I stopped and saw you were always there 💕

Michelle K Roberton
We are to marry our demons. Grow from the medicin We are to marry our demons. 
Grow from the medicine in their wounds,
dance in their shadows. 
This is alchemy. 
Dissolving our fears into love, transcending our stories into sovereign gold 💕

Michelle K Roberton 💕
"I swam to you, through the storms and mists of al "I swam to you, through the storms and mists of all my confusions, 
I did not know it was you calling my name, until I found you.
Held in your scent, the past dissolved and all it's ghosts. 
Like awakening from a dream. it's existence loosened it's grip from my tightened fingers.
And there I was.
With you.
In all of your beauty and in all of mine." Michelle K Roberton 💕
Not so many days ago, Deepak Chopra added a post s Not so many days ago, Deepak Chopra added a post saying: “However good or bad, you feel about your relationship, the person you are with at this moment is the right person, because he or she is the mirror of who you are inside.” The response was huge but not with the usual praise.  Concerned and angry comments that I agreed with, as I could see how this does and could have put many vulnerable people in a further powerless place.  The words were not totally inaccurate, maybe some of the terminology was a bit thoughtless and unhelpful, and it certainly required expanding upon.

For 9 years I experienced a physically, mentally, emotionally, and financially abusive relationship.  I often pondered on this “old school” belief amidst the abuse and would as many that commented on the post would feel “Okay, so this is what I deserve.” “This is what I am worthy of.” “It’s my fault.”
“There is something wrong with me.” And so because of this internal conversation I stuck it out a lot longer than I should have done. I felt shit, powerless, a victim on the inside and yes, life gave that right back. 
Notice I said I felt.  My logical “grown up” mind knew that I was more than that, I was loveable, I could have more than this and what was happening was very, very wrong.
It was not easy to remove myself.  And what changed was how I FELT.

You see, we can have these very strong ideas and talk our talk without any walk… as somewhere maybe so deeply hidden and engrained in our developmental years, some  part of us does not resonate with our talk as truth, it is hurt, wounded, in pain, has not been given or taught healthy boundaries, lacks self-sovereignty, lacks power. 
I would notice I would say “No” but I would feel an ouch in my heart, or a lump in my throat and so my “No” was not heard.  I would say “leave” but feel sick inside of being the bad person.  I felt responsible for all of it.
I doubted my own truth over his, questioned my own intuition and sanity... lost all sense of who I was. 
With a lot of looking at my childhood, where all these abusive systems had wired into my sense of self as NORMAL, (Continues in comments)
I felt you in my heart, and how you, my love, da I felt you in my heart, and how you, 
my love, 
danced upon my lips ... teasing a smile.
As you filled me up,
the  light in my eyes created stars for you.
I love you 💕 ~ Michelle Roberton 💕
Dissolve has been a key word for me in the past fe Dissolve has been a key word for me in the past few weeks.  It repeatedly came in my morning listening and so I watched the invitation to dissolve... allowed it in.
The methods found their way to me, once I accepted the invite... as they do, 
rather than the analysis of WTF does that mean ... as we do! :) Things ... beliefs, lingering attachments, outdated crappy boundaries... in my external and internal world, began to dissolve. 
When we watch something dissolve, it is effortless. A magical disappearance from something that seems so solid, so unchangeable, dissolve into nothing.

Dissolving .. Until I arrived to a place of velvety darkness,soft warm folds that I sank into.
Not labeled good or bad, or doom or gloom. Simply a darkness to curiously grow from. 
As I nestled into the silence, out of darkness there came a point zero.
And from point zero, there was a spark, a new consciousness, a new being and most wonderfully of all,  new choices.

When we do not resist and just surrender to the impulse, we find that life just keeps on lovingly whispering ... and we can as we let go of our stubborn grip, with absolute grace, dissolve away from all that we are not ... deliciously expanding into the more~ness of all that we are 💕
Love and trust are intimately entwined. Without o Love and trust are intimately entwined.  Without one, the other cannot survive.

Trust enables love to express in its fullest.  To dance freely ... no room for edges of doubt.  No questions need be asked ... When love is innocent without reason.

When love is visible in our eyes, known in this breath, felt in our caress ... between self, lovers, friends, our children... when love is life and life is love. 
Trust is there, holding love’s foundations.

Without trust, love cannot survive 💕
The most important person to trust in the world is The most important person to trust in the world is YOU 💕

This trust is built upon keeping your word, walking your talk, keeping your self promises, listening to and honouring your boundaries.

If we step over or back down on our own boundaries, can we really complain when others don’t listen or respect them either? 
It is essential to our internal happiness, our health ... our self respect, to know and own our NO.

To know and own our YES.

And to allow ourselves time to pause if we are unsure.

Pour a glass of something perfectly naughty and take this Friday evening to chill and listen to my Brighton Talks Sex podcast exploring boundaries in and beyond the bedroom.

Podcasts in link or follow on iTunes and Spotify 💕
The last few weeks of my life have offered many sh The last few weeks of my life have offered many shifts and adjustments, as I have settled into my new environment and the new space it has offered on all levels, to go beyond. 
This has, of course happened within a global time of changing gears 
Beyond our individual structures, habitual patterns and limitations ... and those of the collective. 
My throat has had a frog in it each day. Sometimes she sits quietly .., (its a lady frog) 
Other days she has let out a feeble croak. 
Some days it has hurt. And she has cried many a tear. 
Others she has burst into bliss filled song and scrumptious poetry. 
Other days she has been a toad and then the next a shimmering sexual goddess.

Expanding, contracting, adjusting, expanding. 
It has all been a new learning of  my voice. 
Knowing, believing, trusting, owning my voice in new ways ... not louder, it just has a an exhilarating power and a desire to touch and share with others as gracefully as my fingertips... To notice the voice of victim and let her grow beyond. 
There is no power in the voice of the victim, the survivor yes, the warrior yes ... absolutely!
Feeling the restrictive weakness and discomfort when my voice is coming from victim. The hands of suffocation. 
Meeting the voice of the child who had the birthright to trust she may ask and receive, stolen. 
To let her sing again and tell her wild and magical stories without being silenced. 
To meet the voice of the seductive doubts of the nonbeliever and claim the voice that knows it is an expressive flow of all creation and to own the power of her word, her story.

How apt this has all come to be seen and explored ... integrated and  owned ... in a global time, where all voices matter 💕
Body ~ Once upon a time, over many a sun and moon Body ~

Once upon a time, over many a sun and moon, I longed to belong ...
To belong with someone.
To belong in a place.
To belong on this planet.
To belong ... bloody anywhere!

I worried what others thought. I was anxious around people.  I people pleased and appeased... I adjusted and adapted and begged to belong. 
I built homes, relationships, a family ... I looked and looked in every nook and dusty corner for the longing to be satisfied... to matter ... to fit in ... to feel I belonged. 
Totally bypassing the possibility, that to authentically belong, without condition or reason, could only be truly known, truly FELT right here.

In root and bones.  In breath and heartbeat.  In skin and flesh. 
In no longer escaping from but owning and trusting this body. 
To FEEL you belong will not be silenced by the world around you, no matter how far you travel. 
For life changes scenery ... it’s faces ... it’s voices.  It’s ideals. 
To belong is to let go of the fear that holds you away from getting down into your own roots ... to be content and full in the rise and fall of the breath in your belly ... to hold your beautiful face up to the sun ... just as you, most perfectly are 💕
A bit of Friday night listening for you... Can men A bit of Friday night listening for you... Can men really separate ejaculation from orgasm?? We hear so much from the “sexperts” that it seemed essential to hear it from a “man that can”! Your everyday guy ... father, husband ... son.

In this podcast episode, Mat shares with us why he decided to seek out a more fulfilling way of being sexual, his adventure in becoming a multi orgasmic man and the dynamics of receiving “permission” from his wife to explore all parts of himself.

Link in bio. Or follow on iTunes and Spotify. 
Enjoy 💕

I was sitting in the glorious sun today, reflectin I was sitting in the glorious sun today, reflecting on where I am, huge sighs of contentment... a big smile  on my face and a twinkle in my eyes to match.

I recently moved to what has turned out to be the best place ever, with its rolling fields of luscious green and the sparkles of starlight that play on the riverbank each morning.

I never expected to be here.  I had other plans ... I have learnt repeatedly that “ITS NOT MY WAY” is the absolute way!! When I push and TRY and force, tame or squash ... when I have a rigid plan, it’s exhausting! 
A complete headf**k and full of anxiety. 
Yet  when I let go of ideals, the details of how it has to be and look ... and by when and where... When I step into the effortless silence of “not knowing” and dance with life’s beat ... I end up in places that my heart without question, innocently follows.

As life lovingly says “it’s this way .... “ 💕

To caress the delicacy of your skin, invokes “so To caress the delicacy of your skin, invokes “something” in me that I have, as of yet to find the words. 
A language that can convey to you all that I am in this simple gift.

Words seem so incomparable to the galaxies upon galaxies of starlight I feel when holding you in my touch.

For in touch, I give you my heart and it’s song.

I know myself in my most vulnerable form of love and I “see” you in yours.

Intimate with touch, I pour into you.  Our hearts free from boundaries and closed doors.  Dissolving into your depths, I am the sun … the softest kiss of my caress, warm upon your delicious skin.

My fingertips are the graceful soles of a dancer.  Your body their stage, as they intuitively move, alert to your needs, your rhythm, your hunger.  Inviting your sensuality to awaken and come play.

A sacred chalice from the palms of my hands hold your wounds, A silent witness to your pain.

They uncurl your wings, ground you into the strength of your core, Birth your naked bones upon the rich soils.

A journey that can only be known by taking a taste … seen and felt in the purest gift of touch.

Without you.  Your heart, your breath, your skin.  I cannot touch.

Without you.  Your heart, your breath, your skin. I cannot dance ♥️ #imissyourskin 
Orgasmic man offers a conscious choice for a man t Orgasmic man offers a conscious choice for a man to move beyond the basics of doing sex into being sex.

Taste those words upon your tongue, over and over.

Do-ing sex.

Be-ing sex.

You will feel your whole body move into desire, into longing, for it innately KNOWS this as truth ... Before you forgot, squashed and tamed your sex to fit into boxes of performance, stress release and expectations.

Give yourself permission to explore your sex in all it's power, all it's ecstasy.

As not what you do, not what you act out ... but as wholley YOU.

Introducing my interactive video course Orgamsic Man, supporting you to know your limitless potential as a multiorgasmic man. 
Link in bio 💕 
#orgasmic #orgasmiclife #conscioussexuality #mensexuality #menshealth
What feeds your soul? What brings a rainbow burst What feeds your soul? 
What brings a rainbow burst of warmth to your heart,  that teases the corners of your lips as you smile ... adds a naughty sparkle to your eyes and a fabulous boing your bungee?

Do you remember what you love to create? 
My daughter always knows that she will find her way back to herself when she bakes. 
She shuts everyone out of the kitchen,  music on full, singing and dancing like a diva ... while she nourishes her soul in creating delicious cakes ... which taste of joy and all her “Sunnie~ness” 
It’s essential to have these creative pathways that feed our soul.
Remind us of who we are. 
That give us internal nourishment, the freedom to express and the satisfying sense of relief as we expand beyond the external BS into flow. 
What is your soul food? 💕


Looking Beneath Our Desire?

If we take time to pause, to listen to self, we will often find that there is something beneath our desire that is not quite being met, as we are attending to our desire from surface level without truly listening in or from habit.  As we learn to allow our deepest desire to be fully met, our interactions begin to feel less sticky and from a place of pure, loving impulses that nourish and satisfy to the core.




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Body Love & Intimacy.

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What Lies Behind Our Touch?

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Is Tantra A Technique?

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The Effects Of Porn And Porn Addiction For Women And Teenage Girls.

In this short video Michelle shares some of the effects of porn on women and teenage girls in which she is experiencing within her female clientele.  

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