The experience of more pleasure, more sex, more money, has become an external drive to get, to do,
to have ….
More.
We chase pleasure, hunger for pleasure, fantasise of pleasure, seek pleasure, reaching out towards partners, losing ourselves to sex and the attainment of materials.
Yet this is empty action rather than the fulfilment, satisfaction and liberation we deeply desire.
Our capacity for pleasure,
allowing pleasure,
surrendering to pleasure,
feeling pleasure,
expanding our experiences of pleasure are all limited by how we feel internally.
Our Limited Wiring of Pleasure.
We are wired from an early age about self and our worthiness of pleasure.
Our worthiness measured by how we were treated and cared for. If we lack self worth, we will not feel worthy of the small things that gift us pleasure.
We are taught that we need permission for pleasure.
To be good not bad.
Seen not heard.
We are taught that the source of pleasure is sex, and sex is not wild and messy, but something to be tamed, quiet and controlled to our bedroom.
Within this wiring, our capacity for pleasure remains limited and unfulfilling until we free ourselves from unconscious resistance to be open and allow pleasure to permeate us and move us.
As an individual, We have to be willing to let go and for that we firstly need to feel safe in our body, our breath and our own sense of self.
What Is Pleasure?
Pleasure is our felt sense of aliveness that hums and pulsates in our body.
It is the source of our joy, our va voom for life, our curiosity.
Our inquisitiveness to know, to feel, to taste, to touch, to create and explore.
To be in awe and wonder of …
Life.
It asks for ground, and body and breath … for soft and receptive. For open and flow.
When we open to pleasure, we open to life and what we slowly begin to allow and invite into our daily moments as the simplicity of the sunrise, the warm breeze on skin, or a bird song, fuels the pleasure we share with our lover.
Pleasure is a felt body sensation that ripples and radiates.
We become pleasure in motion, pleasure in flow.
We meet our lover “in” pleasure rather than a striving to give or get or force or chase.
There is no longer a seeking, control or a demand …
Simply two beings meeting …
Simmering in shared divine pleasure …
How To Re-wire For Pleasure.
Becoming aware of your narrative around pleasure can reveal to you how and where you maybe restricting your capacity for pleasure.
Here is some helpful self inquiry for you to explore with curiosity.
What are you beliefs? How were you informed of pleasure?
Is pleasure a daily life experience or something limited to sex?
How do you feel in your body? Do you delight in moving your body? Do you feel at ease in your own touch?
How do you feel in your breath? Does your breath reach your belly, your pelvis? Do you allow your breath to have sound?
