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Letting Go Of Friction Based Sex.

I would like to offer the suggestion today, to let go of friction-based sex.    In our society, our culture, friction based sex is the only idea that we are offered in our sex education. That all sex is action based. Or sex is friction based. This idea of friction based Sex definitely gets us […]


Is Ejaculation Orgasm?

Is ejaculation orgasm? Ejaculation and orgasm are two separate things. I recently had a lady say to me “I did not know that was possible, let alone a thing.” And we are don’t because we are not taught this within our sexual education, thus keeping our sexual experiences limited to one flavour. I would compare […]


You Are A Sexual Being.

I very often have people saying to me, particularly women and particularly women of a certain age group. (Peri-menopausal, going through the menopause and then the other side) that they are not sexy, they do not need or desire Sex and they do not see or feel themselves to be a sexual being. I truly […]


Is Our Deepest, Deepest Desire Sex?

Is our deepest deepest desire sex or do we simply not have the language, the confidence in communication, or the courage to be vulnerable to ask for what we truly need? When we so easily ask for, initiate or move into the act of sex … are we in truth desiring the simplicity of touch?  […]


The Grace Of Whole Body Orgasms.

We can be so focused on what we think an orgasm should like, or what an orgasm should sound like or even to the extent what we think an orgasm will feel like for our body. Even in the Tantric world, there is maybe this idea that when we are having these whole body orgasms, […]


Busting The Tantra Bullshit.

Tantra has a stigma in society. A limiting idea or presumption that it is all about having great sex for hours and achieving multiple and whole body orgasms. The thinking around Tantra can still be method/goal orientated… as in a means to great sex … but still an “action.” I am deeply passionate about the […]


Chasing The Big O

Orgasms are a much spoken topic in today’s world.      We can flick through magazines and find “DO this to your partner and give him/her amazing orgasms” But orgasms are not a method. It is not a case of trying or doing new Sex positions or styles of foreplay to get a result. To […]


Our Sex ~ The Last Place We Want To Look.

Sexuality is very often the last place we want to look.  The last “thing” we attend to in our lives. This is very often because of the guilt, shame, the suppression we have built around it. The hidden beliefs we have around our sex and our sexuality.  We do not want to go there, we […]


Male Shame ~ The Unspoken Pressures Of Male Performance & Ejaculation.

I have chosen to Speak with you today about the unspoken pressure of male performance and ejaculation. We still have this thinking in society that sex is something that we do and sex is something that happens to us.   With this line of thinking it means that our sharing of sex becomes the responsibility […]